Lonely path for 'leftover' women07-29 14:20 China Daily
Monologues drama shines a light on "leftover" women and the pressure to marry, The Associated Press reports.
Wang Anqi listens to others during a rehearsal for The Leftover Monologues. In the drama, Chinese and foreign women and men tell their own stories of searching for a partner.
For many of today's Chinese youth looking for a partner, love takes second place to parental pressure, moving up the social ladder and a heavy dose of fear drummed into women that they will endup as "leftover". These aspects and others relating to love, dating and women's status in the Middle Kingdom was examined on Saturday in a China-inspired version of The Vagina Monologues, a Broadway hit exploring womanhood that got actresses voicing women's most intimate feelings to packed theaters.
In The Leftover Monologues, Chinese and foreign women - and a few men - told their own stories of searching for a partner, their observations of love and sex, and the panic aroused by the thought of becoming a "leftover woman", defined by a women's agency as a single urban female over 27 years.
Wang Anqi is only 23 and already worried.
"People start to use 'leftover' to somehow remind us to lower our criteria, be realistic, be practical and go out and find somebody," says Wang, who talks about how the term has knocked her self-confidence. "They will say, 'Time flies, now you think you are excellent, young, you can find any guy you like, but in just a blink you will be 30.'"
The Vagina Monologues has been performed in Chinese universities but its first professional performance in Shanghai was stopped the day before it was to open in 2004, reportedly because of sensitive content, including the word "vagina".
Its Chinese sister is an amateur production held at a central Beijing arts venue called MeridianSpace; 16 people delivered monologues. It is the brainchild of Roseann Lake, an American journalist who has just finished writing a book about love in China.
Liu Chang (left) takes part in a game with Roseann Lake (second from left) and others ahead of a practice session for The Leftover Monologues at a cafe in Beijing.
"I would really like if these monologues somehow forced areappraisal of Chinese women in society," Lake says. "They areconstantly being tallied, and their value on the marriage market is always fluctuating depending on age and on looks and on color of skin and size of eyes."
The financial stakes of marrying well have risen following China'seconomic boom and the development of its private-property market. In decades past, people were assigned residences by their workers' unit. Now many young people and their parents view marriage as a way to gain something - an apartment, a car or a coveted Beijing residence permit (hukou), which brings local healthand education benefits.
Many young Chinese have no siblings because of the family planning policy, so they also feel the full weight of their parents'hopes and fears and pressure to deliver a grandchild.
That means many women and some men dread going home for Chinese New Year, the year's most important holiday, when parents - and sometimes relatives and neighbors - often ask why they aren't married yet.
Song Yanyan, 35, was surprised this year when after dinner her father's friend called her over for a talk and, in a grave tone, asked her if she was planning on being single her whole life.
She returned from working in the United States a year and a half ago and, after trying to find a boyfriend through her friends and friends' friends, signed up for an online dating service. Her experience with the service, and her surprise at the customer service center's offer to find her a man earning more than 500,000 yuan ($80,000) a year if she paid more than 10,000 yuan, is the subject of her monologue.
"Dating here is more like a negotiation," Song says. "You know this person not by who they are but by what they have", such as their own apartment and a Beijing hukou.
"If those criteria fit, then they start to talk about whether they should be boyfriend and girlfriend, and then they talk about if they have some intimacy or not," she says.
Liu Chang, a 27-year-old engineer, says his friends would never consider a woman without a Beijing hukou as a long-term prospect, mainly because of pressure from their parents. They worry that while she would receive the same benefits as her Beijing husband, her parents wouldn't and are a potential burden, Liu says.
The pressure on women in particular has grown as the phrase"leftover woman" (shengnu) gets flung around.
The term was defined in 2007 by the All-China Women's Federation, an organization that promotes government policies on women, as an unmarried urban professional woman over the age of 27.
This came on the heels of a government policy goal of "upgrading population quality", suggesting it wants smart women to pass on their genes to children, says Leta Hong Fincher, who has written a book called Leftover Women: The Resurgence of Gender Inequality in China. The subsequent promotion in State media of the "leftover" label is intended to put pressure on women to hurry up and get married and bear children, she says.
Song says she didn't want to get married simply to get rid of the "leftover" label.
"I'm just trying to find someone who I really adore."
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